“Watch your thoughts; they lead to attitudes. Watch your attitudes; they lead to words. Watch your words; they lead to actions. Watch your actions; they lead to habits. Watch your habits; they form your character. Watch your character; it determines your destiny.” ~ Michael Josephson.
Gerry wrote about finding a credit card that belonged to a child. Yes, a child! It begs the question, what type of parent would give a child a credit card?
My first thoughts turned towards the father of the obnoxious child Veruca Salt from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. The child’s character and her very nature had been spoiled by her over-indulgent father, a foolish man who had never learned to say NO.
Mr Salt had made the rudimentary error of not setting clear boundaries, both for himself and for the child. The paternal love for his daughter coupled with the desire to please her, and, possibly his need to be loved by her, overcame his common sense and parental responsibility, resulting in him giving way to her every whim, the consequence of which created a ruined and thoroughly dislikeable child.
When I worked in school, Nature or Nurture – was a question that often popped up when discussing the character of a particular child. Perhaps it’s a little of both, but unfailingly, I subscribe to the belief that it is our duty as parents to set firm boundaries, and to nurture all that is good in the child.
My late husband and I gave our children pocket money (allowance), but in our house, the pocket money was earned. We allocated simple chores, emptying the dishwasher, feeding /walking the dogs, setting/clearing the table and putting away laundry that I’d previously left clean and folded on each of their beds. I will also add that the older ones often undertook extra chores, chores that were never asked of them, but ones they chose to do when they saw a need.
Our children often made us smile in the way they swapped jobs between themselves and even wrote IOUs to each other. We did not issue Bank Credit cards!
My husband was a little old fashioned, and once when Joss was very young and playing with jugs of water at the kitchen sink, I remarked, “You’ll make a super washer-upper!” My husband retorted, “He won’t be doing the dishes he has four sisters!”
Needless to say, I was swift to correct his misapprehension!
In many ways, our children had a privileged upbringing, but I’m very proud of the adults they have become, they have remained unspoilt, bright, clever and independent, and importantly, they are kind and caring individuals.
(C) SueW-nansfarm.net 2019 Word Prompt Character from Weekly Prompts
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