grey haired ladyA third entry to GC and my Weekly Prompts Definitions!

A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple.” ~ John Florio

This week while walking at the top of the lane, a grey-haired elderly looking lady waved to me from one of the gardens. I took a second look and was shocked to discover that the grey haired lady with her hair tied into a bun was not at all old, this was a young woman, aged just forty-two and who as a child used to play at my house with my children.

How sad that her hair had turned grey at such a young age, and I found it hard to understand why she hadn’t attempted to colour and conceal it to preserve her youth a little while longer.

I am fortunate to look a little younger than my actual age, and that the odd strand of grey here and there hasn’t yet taken hold. The idea of allowing grey to take over does not appeal to me. In truth, the whole ageing thing really bothers me I haven’t managed to accept and embrace the usual definition of growing older, and I doubt I ever will.

It’s different for men, well, for those lucky enough to still have hair past age sixty-five! rey haired manMany men may be surprised to learn that grey hair on a man can look distinguished and perhaps render him more attractive to women than he was before!

Pardon? What was that?lady with ear trumpet

Recently, a possible age-related issue had begun to bother me and one I was refusing to accept. My memory was bad enough but was I suffering from hearing loss too?

Tinnitus was bothering me, and I’d become unsure of which direction sounds were coming from, and I was saying pardon rather a lot.

My son would raise his voice and repeat what he’d just said, and I would reply “No need to shout I’m not deaf, it’s you, you’re mumbling!

My mother and grandmother were both deaf, my mother from childhood, from a hereditary disease that affects females I had assumed it had skipped me.

Eventually, I plucked up the courage to book a private hearing test. We have a wonderful NHS (National Health Service), one of the best in the world, and for most things, they cannot be faulted, but everything I’d read concerning hearing steered me toward the private sector.

The Hearing Test  Who’d have thought that hearing tests could be so sophisticated, and even better, they were computerised! That was me hooked straight away!smiling computer

Small pads were placed around the back of my ears, and a computerised necklace thing hung around my neck. Sounds and words were played through earphones and I told the audiologist what I’d heard.

A graph on the computer screen confirmed the sounds I’d actually heard, and not only that but the graph also gave the percentage of the hearing loss to each ear.

For me, the most impressive result of the tests came from the pads behind my ears the pads informed the computer of the type of hearing loss I was suffering from. My hearing loss is due to nerve damage, nothing to do with my mother’s disease and absolutely not age related! Suddenly, I didn’t mind being a little deaf!

tinnitusA Warning To You – According to my audiologists hearing loss is the main cause of tinnitus and not the other way around. If you suspect you are suffering from hearing loss or have tinnitus, please do not allow pride to put your hearing in jeopardy  because by doing so you could be inflicting further damage.

In the UK, hearing checks are offered free via the NHS and in most (if not all) private audiology clinics. The private tests are more extensive than the NHS, and once a diagnosis has been made, you can please yourself whether to continue down the private route or visit the family physician for a referral.

MY Hearing – Once deafness had occurred, those damaged nerves continued to die. I now have two tiny hearing aids that recharge overnight and stimulate the remaining healthy nerves during the day. The aids are guaranteed for five years, and my hearing checks will remain free of charge. Should my hearing deteriorate further, the aids will be adjusted via the computer.

Volume was not a problem for me, but I was missing the higher pitch sounds, and I misheard the initial sounds in some words, which is probably why I accused son Joss of mumbling!

The hearing aids have been set by the computer to assist in hearing the sounds I was missing. The volume of other noise such as traffic is not affected.

Isn’t technology wonderful!

(C) 2019 Word Prompts Definition from Weekly Prompts,  Jeopardy from Fandango  and Memory from the Ragtag community

Clipart courtesy of Google


20 thoughts on “Pardon?

  1. Murphy's Law

    Sue, this is a fantastic post, and one most, if not all, of us can relate to. At “almost” 80, I do notice a slight hearing loss and I’m a bit forgetful now and then. Your post is real food for thought!

    I forwarded this post to a friend who has tinnitus but isn’t noticing any worrisome hearing loss…yet. She saw an ENT who ‘suggested’ she look into hearing aids. They’re very costly, and since she feels she hears just fine, she decided to put hearing aids on the back burner. I’m hoping your blog will have her rethinking that decision.

    It just occurred to me Sue, I really don’t know the etiquette of the blogging community. I apologize if I was supposed to get your permission to forward your blog to someone. 🤔

    Just think! You no longer will be accusing your son of ‘mumbling’ and he doesn’t have to shout at you any more. So very glad your hearing loss is due to nerve damage (not exactly something to do the happy dance about), but at least you haven’t inherited the same disease your mom had and it’s not age related.
    🐾Ginger 🐾

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    1. Your friend’s situation interests me because one of my friends had a check up via NHS and she was told she had slight hearing loss and asked do you want a heating aid? There were no explanations given. She said no thanks. She has now made an appointment to see my audiologist. I understand hearing aids are free here on the NHS but they’re not as discreet as the ones available privately, so I chose the private route. They are expensive but my second was almost like buy one get the second half price! If you imagine spending that money over the five year guarantee then it does seem worth it. I have no doubt though that someone is making a fortune out of us!
      Ginger please feel free to share anything. You should have your own blog! As usual I thank you 🙂

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  2. I have recently had new hearing aids and, initially, winced at the cost. In the 10 years I’ve been wearing aids the cost had doubled. However, I thought “What price hearing?”, especially when I regularly have to pay £500 to renew my glasses when the prescription changes. My ears now have TV sound played directly into the aids. I can listen to music via bluetooth, directly into my aids, and I can answer my phone and speak, with, and via my aids. I would urge anyone who thinks they may have a problem to get tested, and, if they need them, get hearing aids. A renewed world awaits you!

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    1. Peter, I absolutely agree with you, but so often we ignore what to everyone else is obvious. I was absolutely amazed to hear from my audiologist about everything that is possible with digital hearing aids. It’s a fallacy that ‘one size fits all!!’

      For now I’m enjoying being able to hear clearly what is being said to me and I’ve turned down the volume of the TV that never helped anyway and have switched off subtitles. And now Joss is now saying pardon to me!

      I have a blog article in the wings about technology via a prompt, though not due out for a week or two, I will come back to you if I may. Thank you very much Peter.

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  3. “Hearing loss causes tinnitus and not the other way around.” Are you sure about that? I’ve had tinnitus in both ears — constantly — since the late 80s, but it’s only been for about the past decade that I’ve started to experience noticeable hearing degradation.

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    1. That is what I was told by the audiologist so I assumed he was correct. He told me that the ear itself produces the noise because it is lacking in the normal sound. My tinnitus is more of a whooshing noise than a ringing but just in the left ear. I was shocked to discover I had lost over 50% of hearing at that side. I really did not think I was very deaf. Volume is not a problem but the nerve loss caused certain sounds to reduce. The right ear is only 25% but I’m using an aid at that side to prevent further nerve damage.

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  4. I’m glad it’s working for you Sue, I too come from a line where deafness is the curse.

    My dad was stone deaf be the time he was 65, being a “Blacksmith” and nursing his anti aircraft gun during the war didn’t help much, but I suppose he would still have gone deaf,

    Both his mother and father were stone deaf and I’m fortunately the only one of the Smith blood on our side to have been afflicted, neither of my siblings were hit with it and none of my children are,’ my loss is now 80%+

    I went through that same process as you described a couple of months back, I nodded and tried to look intelligent,

    The hearing aids work, sort of, they seem to clarify what I hear but don’t appear to make it any louder, so I rarely bother bunging them in,

    I opted for a better aid than the free aids which our worlds very best health service provided, wish I’d bought a couple of cartons of bourbon instead make that half a dozen! :twisted”

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    1. I’ve heard that Australia has a brilliant health service. Is your service struggling at the moment or is it just ours that needs a massive financial injection?
      Sorry you’re not happy with your hearing aids maybe they need adjusting.
      I’m going to go back with mine because yesterday when listening to music on my computer while I was typing I realised that the sound seemed to be coming from the left side of the room, my right ear wasn’t picking up the music, unless I leaned towards the computer.


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