“I don’t need a hair stylist, my pillow gives me a new hairstyle every morning” ~Anon.
Yesterday, whilst in a restaurant, I noticed a family sitting across the room that I hadn’t seen for thirty years. They looked across at me a few times, but swiftly looked away again. We played the game of catch my eye for about ten minutes until eventually, I thought, “Sod this for a game of soldiers,” and I left my table and walked across to say hello.
The mother almost reverently thanked me for going over to speak to them, then she stroked her hair and apologetically remarked, “Oh dear, and I’ve still got the same short hairstyle!” (No metamorphosis here then) I smiled and answered “Don’t worry about that, I’m full of wine!”
What was I thinking? I’ve no idea what prompted me to make that silly remark, was it a feeble attempt to say something that would make her feel better about herself? It sounded as though I was telling her not to worry because I was too drunk to notice.
More importantly, why was she concerned, why did she need to apologise? Was she anxious at seeing me after so many years had passed.
When apologies are unnecessary, as in this instance, they can have the opposite effect. This lady drew attention to her hairstyle, a style, to my knowledge, she’d worn for over forty years. Unfortunately, her apologetic remarks showed she was lacking in self-confidence, and quite frankly, I wouldn’t have given her hairstyle a second thought had she not brought it to my attention.
We all choose our personal styles and in keeping her hair very short and practical, she had chosen hers, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with her personal choice. We are what we are, but I found it sad that she felt she needed to apologise.
SueW-nansfarm.net 2019- Loosely Linked to Fandango’s One Word Challenge Metamorphosis. https://fivedotoh.com/2019/01/07/fowc-with-fandango-metamorphosis/