Apologies Not Neccessary

#FOWC Metamorphosis

I don’t need a hair stylist, my pillow gives me a new hairstyle every morning” ~Anon.

Yesterday, whilst in a restaurant, I noticed a family sitting across the room that I hadn’t seen for thirty years. They looked across at me a few times, but swiftly looked away again. We played the game of catch my eye for about ten minutes until eventually, I thought, “Sod this for a game of soldiers,” and I left my table and walked across to say hello.

short hair 2The mother almost reverently thanked me for going over to speak to them, then she stroked her hair and apologetically remarked, “Oh dear, and I’ve still got the same short hairstyle!” (No metamorphosis here then) I smiled and answered “Don’t worry about that, I’m full of wine!”

What was I thinking? I’ve no idea what prompted me to make that silly remark, was it a feeble attempt to say something that would make her feel better about herself? It sounded as though I was telling her not to worry because I was too drunk to notice.

More importantly, why was she concerned, why did she need to apologise? Was she anxious at seeing me after so many years had passed.

When apologies are unnecessary, as in this instance, they can have the opposite effect. This lady drew attention to her hairstyle, a style, to my knowledge, she’d worn for over forty years. Unfortunately, her apologetic remarks showed she was lacking in self-confidence, and quite frankly, I wouldn’t have given her hairstyle a second thought had she not brought it to my attention.

We all choose our personal styles and in keeping her hair very short and practical, she had chosen hers, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with her personal choice. We are what we are, but I found it sad that she felt she needed to apologise.

SueW-nansfarm.net 2019- Loosely Linked to Fandango’s One Word Challenge Metamorphosis. https://fivedotoh.com/2019/01/07/fowc-with-fandango-metamorphosis/

13 thoughts on “Apologies Not Neccessary

  1. Maureen Helen

    A timely reminder to accept ourselves as we are and not to apologise for the things about ourselves that we can’t or don’t want to change. Thanks again, Sue.

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    1. I agree Maureen. I think, from time to time many of us are guilty of similar behaviour, I know I am, but hopefully from now on I will think twice before unnecessarily apologising for what I imagine are my failings. Thank you Maureen.

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  2. The War office has been telling me for a few weeks now that I need my hair cut,

    I assure her, that a gentleman never wears his hair short,

    I am however going to visit my tonsorial artist tomorrow,

    I do hope he recognizes me.

    Then I won’t have to apologize, tell him I thought he knows, and then tell him how I prefer it cut.

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  3. gc

    SO love you are telling us that you had a magical type of wine glass that never seemed to empty itself. Where can the rest of us find such a valuable goblet? Just kidding dear. xx

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