Child’s Play

Last words

Death after Life or Life after Death – A mystical distinction between sense and purpose!”  ~ unknown

“I knew if I lived long enough this would happen!” ~   unknown

There’s much to be said in favour of scattering a person’s ashes. For one thing you’re not likely to be admonished by the offspring for not bringing fresh flowers often enough!

I usually choose flowers that are likely to last two to three weeks, because that’s how often I visit the grave. Just lately though, the weather here has been appalling and I’ve been putting off the visit. A graveyard surrounded by open fields can be a cold, bleak place in winter.

The late husband, if he could make his views known, would tell me not to bother visiting, he wouldn’t care if his supply of flowers was permanently depleted, and he’d tell me to stop wasting money on them.

So why do I do it? After all, I don’t believe the man I knew, the person, his soul, for want of a better word, is lying in that cemetery. All that remains is a casket of ashes that used to be him, and that’s buried beneath a memorial tablet that someone forgot to punctuate! (I dictated over the phone!)

I think I visit out of a sense of duty, and because I don’t like the idea of others judging me for not taking fresh flowers! You see I knew some of the other dead people, the ones who are buried nearby, and their flowers are never past the sell-by date!

So, yesterday, prompted by my second daughter who’d recently taken a pot of spring flowers to the cemetery, I delivered my own floral contribution to add to the colourful blooms that were displayed all around.

I am beginning to wonder, however, if taking your almost four-year old daughter with you when you visit the cemetery is such a good idea.

It seems Louisa’s latest cemetery visit has inspired the child’s imagination, and when Louisa asked her why she was arranging cushions and blankets in neat rows on the floor, she answered that she was playing cemeteries!

Upon lifting up the cushions, young Scarlett proudly showed off an array of small toys that were apparently resting in peace!

(C) April 2018. In response to the word-prompt deplete

24 thoughts on “Child’s Play

  1. Children have the greatest imaginations, and I think we seriously underestimate their capacity to understand what is occurring. Good post. I never grew up as part of a family that visits cemeteries, so it fascinates me to read this post.

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  2. Relax...

    Good post. I might be the yardstick for whether anyone visits their beloved deceaseds’ resting places enough — once every few years, or if my mom needs a certain cup of coffee she used to love, to which I treat her now and then. 😉 I’ve no doubt she’s smiling somewhere..

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  3. The innocence and imagination of children is always such a wondrous thing, it’s such a pity our modern societies seem to strip these beautiful qualities far too early. And yes, I’m always taking flowers to the cemetery for Carole, her birthday’s on Tuesday 17th…. xx

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  4. gc

    Reblogged this on THE MAIN AISLE – 2018 and commented:
    This is an intriguing and captivating article that tries to show the mind set that young children adopt after they are exposed to the adult themes of life and death. Parents might not be watching their children but youngsters are like sponges and absorb their surrounding almost instantaneously. A good and thought provoking read. – gc

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  5. We visited once in a blue moon to a lovely old cemetery where our grandparents and other relatives were buried. I never thought much about it as a child, wasn’t fearful, just thought it was nice and quiet. Nowadays I’m not a visitor at all, everyone I would visit is too far away.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to comment Cheryl.
      One afternoon a couple of years ago, two of my grandchildren discovered that many of the flowers decorating the graves were false! Apparently, the abundance of rabbits down there resulted in the flowers being eaten almost as soon as they were placed. I might try that trick! 🙂


      1. We had a huge wild yellow rose bush that we cut many blossoms from, peonies and lilacs. Some roses. Depended on the weather if they all came out at the memorial day time

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      2. Sounds lovely. Our tiny village cemetery is just outside the village next to farmland, very pretty and a peaceful place to sit and contemplate, or watch the older grandchildren challenging each other to find the most dried flower arrangements!


      3. In Colorado we had wild yellow roses, peonies and lilacs when it came to Memorial Day here. The wild roses were so delicate but even the petals strewn over the graves was pretty. This cemetery was high on a hill overlooking a beautiful valley.

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