“Death after Life or Life after Death – A mystical distinction between sense and purpose!” ~ unknown
“I knew if I lived long enough this would happen!” ~ unknown
There’s much to be said in favour of scattering a person’s ashes. For one thing you’re not likely to be admonished by the offspring for not bringing fresh flowers often enough!
I usually choose flowers that are likely to last two to three weeks, because that’s how often I visit the grave. Just lately though, the weather here has been appalling and I’ve been putting off the visit. A graveyard surrounded by open fields can be a cold, bleak place in winter.
The late husband, if he could make his views known, would tell me not to bother visiting, he wouldn’t care if his supply of flowers was permanently depleted, and he’d tell me to stop wasting money on them.
So why do I do it? After all, I don’t believe the man I knew, the person, his soul, for want of a better word, is lying in that cemetery. All that remains is a casket of ashes that used to be him, and that’s buried beneath a memorial tablet that someone forgot to punctuate! (I dictated over the phone!)
I think I visit out of a sense of duty, and because I don’t like the idea of others judging me for not taking fresh flowers! You see I knew some of the other dead people, the ones who are buried nearby, and their flowers are never past the sell-by date!
So, yesterday, prompted by my second daughter who’d recently taken a pot of spring flowers to the cemetery, I delivered my own floral contribution to add to the colourful blooms that were displayed all around.
I am beginning to wonder, however, if taking your almost four-year old daughter with you when you visit the cemetery is such a good idea.
It seems Louisa’s latest cemetery visit has inspired the child’s imagination, and when Louisa asked her why she was arranging cushions and blankets in neat rows on the floor, she answered that she was playing cemeteries!
Upon lifting up the cushions, young Scarlett proudly showed off an array of small toys that were apparently resting in peace!
(C) SueW-nansfarm.net April 2018. In response to the word-prompt deplete