A lighthearted wait

This week  daughter Sophie and I visited Skipton in North Yorkshire and took another one of our trips down History Lane.

Walking towards the castle we passed the ‘Funeral Shop’ which last time I was in Skipton I included briefly in another post.

On this latest occasion there was a new coffin in one of the windows, so, if you’re an Elvis fan, this is for you. It is of course followed by my own personal favourite.

Family, please take note, I am, however, hoping your wait will be rather a long one.

Life does not cease to be funny when people die, any more than  it ceases to be serious when people laugh.” ~ George Bernard ShawSONY DSCSONY DSCLife asked death, why do people love me, but hate you? Death responded , Because you are a beautiful lie and I’m a painful truth.” ~ Morticia Lumb

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Footnote:  Having lost close members of my family, I am painfully aware that death is a heartbreaking affair for all concerned. I am by no means ridiculing the life changing effect it has on each of us. 

14 thoughts on “A lighthearted wait

  1. Your post was of particular interest to me as I am going to attend a funeral tomorrow for my Sister’s Mother in Law. The coffins you’ve featured are amazing and I wonder if they cost as much or more than the traditional type. Many people pre plan their funerals and I suppose this way we could choose couldn’t we, lol!!!! I wouldn’t want my family to spend all that money! A very interesting post Susan. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

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    1. I am so sorry for your loss Patricia. This must be a difficult time for your family and you have my sympathy.

      As for the coffins they are amazing aren’t they.
      There was a price list in the window and I can confirm that their services appeared to be more reasonable than the last funeral I paid for. The wicker basket was definitely less expensive than the traditional!
      I’ve never seen or heard of a funeral shop elsewhere but such a good idea. Thank you Patricia. 😊

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  2. gc

    I am always amazed that death is faced with such morbid and somber tones.

    My father passed away when I was nine years old and every adult trying to console me repeatedly told me that (1) he is in a better place; (2) he is now with God; (3) he is in heaven looking down on me with God and (4) one day we will meet again in heaven.

    Wow what a load of commentary to throw at a young child and expect him/her to comprehend and appreciate the meaning of the life/death scenario.

    Adults were consoling my mother from another perspective more sorrowful and supportive than they were me.

    I think my grief was equally important but in those days the children were expected to be seen and not heard.

    Your article Susan is enjoyable in that pictures of Elvis are decorating the casket.

    know it would be in poor taste to say that there is a whole lot of shaking going on but that somberness and dread is often expressed by those adults who do not enjoy their place in the universe.

    Thank you for sharing this article with us.

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    1. Your grief certainly was as important as your mother’s and I’m sorry it wasn’t treated as such.

      As for death itself, it’s part of the fabric of life and should be approached in the same way, with a frown or with a smile. I prefer a smile. Thank you love for your interesting comments.😊


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  5. We British, generally, have always been so afraid to face death, and we definitely have this dread of any discussion regarding death. We hide it all away, prettify bodies, and use horrible chemical mixes so they look even younger than when they actually died. We avoid the bereaved. We just are not very good at it.

    When my Mum died, my sisters and I went round together doing all the necessary organising, paper signing, and so on. We had a great laugh, actually skipping down the road. Mum would have enjoyed it. We certainly did.

    My wife and I have prepaid our funerals. We have arranged what we want to happen and written it down. We modify our plans regularly. We have wills arranged, I have a dementia will too. We have long had Powers of Attorney sorted and have arranged that our house is held as tenants in common. We have both been registered as organ donors.

    The only thing I have to do now is let my wife know that I have decided I would like to donate my body to medical research!

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    1. I’m impressed at how organised you are. I have a will and have given verbal instructions to my children for the funeral arrangements.

      Planning my parent’s funerals was simple because my mother had often talked about it. My husband’s funeral was more difficult. Although he’d been ill for a couple of years he always expected to beat it. When he was taken ill for the final time, he went into hospital for tests and was given a few months to live, but he actually managed only two more weeks and never came home from hospital. During his last few days we realised the end was near but trying to get him to talk about it was difficult, he either changed the subject or cracked jokes. It went without saying that the service would be held at our village church and conducted by our village vicar. I already knew which rousing hymns he liked but after he jokingly said he wanted the Sunday school song “Jesus wants me for a Sunbeam” we went with that too.

      Because of his day job, we realised we would have more mourners than the church could hold. My organised eldest daughter took control and issued a guest list and prioritised those who would sit in the church, meaning all others were seated in the church hall, the service was then projected into the hall on to the large screen. It wasn’t popular with locals, but we felt we couldn’t have good friends travel 200 miles and not have a seat because of acquaintances from the pub! It was an excellent service, filled with laughter just the way he would have liked, so all in all ‘We did him proud’!

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